eHarmony
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| Categories | Christian |
| Free Offer | Personality profile |
| Pros | Advanced personality matching system makes finding the right people easier |
| Cons | You can only communicate with other paid members |
eHarmony is America’s #1 trusted relationship service. The company was founded by America’s most well known relationship expert, best-selling author and clinical psychologist Dr. Neil Clark Warren.
In 2000, backed by over 35 years of clinical and empirical research, Dr. Warren transformed the way singles are introduced online when he launched eHarmony - the first relationship service on the Web to use a scientific approach to match highly compatible singles. Millions of people of all ages, ethnicities, and religious backgrounds have used eHarmony’s patented Compatibility Matching System™ to find the love of their lives.
In fact, recent research presented at the American Psychological Society found that eHarmony married couples are significantly happier than couples married for a similar length of time who met by other means.
Building on its enormous success matching compatible singles, eHarmony launched a revolutionary new service in 2006 to help couples achieve stronger, healthier and happier marriages. eHarmony Marriage is a personalized, interactive, online “marriage wellness” program designed to help marriages flourish by building a deepened sense of understanding, appreciation and connectedness. eHarmony Marriage gives every couple the opportunity to look at their marriage objectively and increase the joy and intimacy in a private, practical and positive program.
Review
eHarmony is, without a doubt, one of the most unique dating sites online. You can tell from the get-go that they are serious about their task.
eHarmony is based on the theory that there are hundreds of dimensions that every person has and by cross analyzing dimensions, the service creates highly compatible matches for you.
eHarmony isn’t a visual pick-em-as-you-see-them buffet like most other dating sites. When you sign up on eHarmony, you must complete an in-depth personality survey that literally takes about an hour or so to finish. The survey delves into hundreds of these “dimensions” then uses your responses to cross match you with other eHarmony members. You are then presented only with profiles of other members who are highly compatible to you.
The interesting thing about forcing members to do a detailed analysis of themselves up front is that it weeds out a lot of people. For example, men only looking for a quick one-night stand are highly unlikely to sign up on eHarmony since the focus is more relationship-oriented versus a visual free-for-all. And some men just don’t like analyzing their inner self. Thus, eHarmony accomplishes something that virtually no other dating site has: there are twice as many women on eHarmony than there are men.
On most dating sites, the ratio of men to women is 70-30. Yet on eHarmony, the ladies outnumber the gentlemen. So men who are serious about finding a meaningful relationship may only need to visit eHarmony. And the good thing for women is that they know that the men on eHarmony know how to use their right brain since they went through the process of analyzing themselves in detail by taking the same personality profile required of all members.
The way eHarmony works is that after you sign up and fill out the in-depth personality profile, you are presented with new matches on a regular basis. These are people that are supposed to be “highly compatible” with you based on scientific relationship research. It cross matches based on dozens of dimensions including 29 “vital” dimensions that deal in the area of emotional health, family values, personality, and character.
As a paying member, you can request communication with any of your matches. If a match agrees then you are taken through a three step process before you can openly email them:
Step 1: Multiple Choice Questions. You select five personality/character/relationship oriented multiple choice questions from a predetermined list that is presented to the other person to answer. They do the same in return.
Step 2: You submit your Must Have and Must Have Nots list that shows your match the things that you “must have” in a partner (i.e. chemistry, loyalty) and things you “can’t stand” in a partner (i.e. rude, racist, couch potato).
Step 3: You submit three “open-ended” questions that the other person answers. You can select from a list of predetermined questions or write your own.
Step 4: You are now in open communication and can freely communicate with the other person.
Anytime during this process you or the other person can “close” the match for any reason. Here’s a sample of the “status” of matches:
Here are three of my 70 matches on eHarmony. I’ve whited out the names of the matches in this example. The green explanation point means the person is a new match for me. The yellow"H” means the person has put me on “hold” (meaning they may be interested, but are pursuing another match). The red X means the person has “closed” me, meaning they aren’t interested (for whatever reason) and I can’t communicate further with them.
eHarmony is, without a doubt, one of the best dating sites online for people looking for a serious relationship. But that doesn’t mean that eHarmony doesn’t have a few “quirks”. I do have two big qualms with eHarmony about their service:
1. eHarmony forces you to be a member to communicate with another member trying to contact you. At $49.95 a month, you’d think eHarmony would have the decency to allow you to communicate with any of your matches without your match having to worry about dishing out $49.95 also!
2. eHarmony sometimes promotes a “7-day Free Trial”. This, too, is highly deceptive because you have to give your credit card information so that you can immediately be billed for your first month when your 7-day “free trial” is over.
I would think that eHarmony would be beyond these type of deceptive practices, because they present themselves as a very honorable and “different” experience for online daters.
Testimonial
Meeting each other has changed our lives forever. We probably wouldn’t have crossed paths if it hadn’t been for eHarmony. We both had been waiting so long to meet that ‘truly compatible’ person and when you introduced us, our waiting was finally over. eHarmony saved us the headache of meeting people randomly, only to find we had little or nothing in common with them. We discovered that we both approach life in a very similar manner, and our similarities and differences really do bring out the very best in our marriage. It’s amazing how well our lives compliment one another. The day I married Leo was the happiest day of my life, and it wouldn’t have been possible without eHarmony! Thank you for bringing us together.